Inside, each of us is an innate fear of not being accepted or having our contribution shunned by the community we feel the strongest resonance to serving.
As business owners and entrepreneurs, the sting of rejection can pierce like a dagger to the heart.
Are you scared of getting rejected and people told you NO when prospecting?
In today’s training is my solution for overcoming your fear of rejection.
How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
How do you overcome the fear of rejection?
1. ACKNOWLEDGE AND PREPARE FOR REJECTION.
We often becomes angry when, despite putting in a lot of the groundwork, our prospects then decides to work with our nemesis.
To overcome rejection prepare yourself to accept the emotions that comes with being rejected.
It is OK to feel angry and frustrated.
The emotional and mental weight you feel is just as valid as any physical pain.
In the long run, it’s more appropriate and healthy; emotionally, mentally and physically – that you allow yourself to feel that.
This is what to do, make sure that you always have a rejection-processing protocol in place.
Debrief with your upline or Mr. AOC team if you don’t mind and they can then empathize and appreciate your experiences without passing judgment, criticizing or looking to give you immediate advice.
Primary acknowledgment of its emotional and mental impact upon on you is essential.
Over time, examine the suite of likely reactions you have when rejection opportunities bare their unattractive heads.
Know this about yourself.
Being able to predict your own responses as well as build in the foresight that rejection is possible can also greatly lessen the blow.
You will feel a greater sense of control knowing what may lie ahead and knowing you’ve got processes in place to handle it.
2. DETACH YOURSELF FROM THE OUTCOME
Question what ‘rejection’ really means
If a man discovers a diamond in the earth but, through ignorance or short-sightedness, believes it to be a worthless stone and so casts it aside, does this tell us more about the diamond or the man?
Whether someone rejects someone else or an opportunity can tell us so much more about the ‘rejecters’ than the rejected.
If someone does ‘reject’ your opportunity, don’t inevitably feel it’s because you’re destined for such – because what they’ve done is give you very clear feedback about…themselves.
It just mean that they are not the best guy to buy from you or what you are selling is not meant for them or can’t serve them or not the best to join your team.
The cause of the fear of rejection is that you’re addicted to the outcome.
It is because you want them to do a particular thing that makes you to be afraid.
So, if I hold the door for someone and they don’t say thank you. And I’m mad. That means I was addicted to the outcome. It means that I was addicted to the idea that I was about to get thanked. So, I was addicted to the outcome.
So, eliminating this addiction to the outcome.
Don’t be addicted to an outcome… If you are addicted to an outcome, it will always get you drained.
If you meet with an orange seller and he marketed his product to you but at that time you weren’t feeling ready to take orange and you said no thanks.
How do you think the orange Seller would feel like?
Do you think he will go, “Why aren’t people not buying the orange? How come they never the orange? They never buy the orange.”
Because they’re just seeing if you’re open to the orange.
Imagine, they just pack their oranges and go back home and say nobody is buying oranges.
Imagine, they go in the back, they smash dishes, and they’re just like, “Nobody is buying won’t it be best if I pack up?”
What will happen? Think about that!
But some network marketers act this way… “You know, I helped my best friend, and I bought him a ticket to the AOC’s game, and he didn’t even join my business. This is nonsense, haba.”
It is because they’re addicted to the outcome.
If someone is not open to join your business today, who told you they can’t join tomorrow?
So, see rejection as what it is, nobody is rejecting you, they are just rejecting that opportunity now cos it is not on their priority list.
So cast off any fear and go for what you want.
Everything is process… Marry the process, forget about the events!
3. I WILL SURVIVE
“I wrote for twelve years and collected 250 rejection slips before getting any fiction published, so I guess outside reinforcement isn’t all that important to me.” – Bestselling author Lisa Alther
Fear of rejection – in fact, any fear – thrives on ‘end of the world thinking’:
“What if he says no to me?” “What if she rejects me?” “What if no one wants to speak to me at the party?”
If we feel that rejection will mean the ‘end of the world’ for us, then we will fear it all the more. It (the fear) has power over us.
But if you sit down and think: “Okay, if this relationship for example, does end, how will I manage?”, you are facing your fear constructively.
Of course you’ll survive and you may even thrive.
Knowing you’ll be okay whatever happens gives you huge amounts of confidence and makes it easier to finally switch off the old automatic rejection detector (which is faulty anyway).
We human types are very bad at accurately predicting how upset we’ll be by future misfortune.
So ask yourself: “Okay, if this future ‘disaster’ I keep scaring myself with were to happen, what are five constructive ways I could cope and eventually thrive again?”
Tell yourself a story (you could even write it down) of how you’ll allow yourself to be upset for a while, but then begin to cope very well.
Just doing this will allow you to feel less fear around the possibility of rejection.
I hope this is helpful to you?
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